Weddings can be beautiful, emotional and special days. Your wedding is a unique celebration of your love to all of your family and friends. But sadly, with emotions running high and pressure building as the day nears, it can also become a stressful time.
Months or even years of wedding planning and the expectation that this will be the happiest, most beautiful, memorable day of your life… these ideas can quickly become pressures.
So how can you make sure that your wedding day is as stress free as possible? How can you de-stress the planning process to make sure that you and your partner can enjoy the most relaxed wedding day?
As Yorkshire wedding photographers, we have observed so many brides and grooms make a success of their wedding planning. Having learned from the best, we want to share that wisdom with all of you! Here are seven tips to help you enjoy your stress-free wedding planning!
1. Make Lists.
Make Lists and Break it down into Timed Chunks
It may sound simple, but keeping a mental to-do list will make you feel mentally pressured, overwhelmed or stressed. But… a long, lengthy list of everything you’ll ever need to plan your wedding will be completely daunting. Break up your list into things you can do right away, things you will do next month, or even things you can do the month or week before the wedding day.
We will be writing a blog post on how to plan a wedding quite soon, but remember to sort the big things first (venue, legal stuff, caterers and of course, photographers!)
Having your wedding planning split up into manageable tasks will make you feel relaxed and lower the pressure of how much you have to do. It will also make you feel reassured, that you’ve done all you can for this point in time.
2. Take a break…
Have time where you take a break from wedding planning.
Your family and friends will be really excited about your special day, so they will want to know details and plans and updates on your wedding planning. Your life can quickly become nothing but weddings! Make sure you give yourself a mental break to relax and de-stress from the wedding. Your life is varied so make sure you enjoy that all of that variety in the months leading up to your special day! Spending time with loved ones and enjoying all your usual ways of relaxing is so important.
3. Let other people help.
If someone else can do it, let them!
Delegate, delegate, delegate!
Your closest friends will want to help. Let them! They may not do the job exactly in the way you expect, but if you communicate your ideas clearly, they will be able to take the load of your hands. A wedding is a huge event to plan, so let people help you!
4. You can’t please them all.
Don’t try to keep everyone happy.
Everyone has an opinion on how you should plan your wedding. From where you should get married to what month of the year to how many traditions you include. To keep your wedding stress free, only include the parts of the day that you really care about. If you don’t want to cut the cake, don’t cut the cake! If a first dance makes you feel anxious, organise your family and the bridal party to all dance along with you. Don’t squash in other people’s expectations at the expense of your enjoyment. They will enjoy the day anyway and enjoy seeing you and your partner relaxed and happy!
5. Don’t expect perfection.
Have reasonable expectations of the day
Your pictures will look even more beautiful if you are happy and relaxed.
Be reasonable about how long certain parts of the day will take. Being rushed or having too much time to kill will lead to unhappy guests and a stressed bride and groom. Make sure you plan time to spend a little quiet time together during the wedding day, whether that is a first look before the ceremony or a couples shoot in the evening light. At Caitlin + Jones Photography we can absolutely recommend the value of doing this, both to keep your wedding enjoyable and to have even more beautiful pictures for your memories!